In this powerful episode, Brad May returns for Part 2 of a raw and honest conversation about leadership, resilience, identity, and what it truly takes to win at the highest level.
Brad reflects on being traded multiple times during his NHL career, adapting to new teams, and learning how to integrate into different locker rooms without disrupting culture. He shares the emotional journey of winning the Stanley Cup with the Anaheim Ducks — and why celebrating that moment with his family meant more than the trophy itself.
The conversation expands beyond hockey into business leadership. Brad breaks down why coaches are “salesmen,” why clarity of vision is essential, and why delegation without interference builds trust. He unpacks the difference between playing not to lose versus playing to win — and why excuses quietly erode culture.
At its core, this episode is about ownership. Ownership of performance. Ownership of mistakes. Ownership of mindset.
As Brad says, there is no “try.” You either do or you don’t.
Episode Highlights:
0:00 - Mental toughness philosophy: eliminating "try" from your vocabulary
2:30 - Adapting through 7 NHL teams and embracing change as growth
6:51 - Winning the Stanley Cup after 16 years
8:30 - Scott Niedermayer's perspective on celebrating championships with loved ones
12:10 - What makes a good coach: the art of getting 25 players to buy in
15:50 - Different coaching styles that win
17:30 - Ted Nolan's simple but powerful "just play left wing" coaching wisdom
19:00 - Randy Carlisle's relentless pursuit of excellence
21:00 - Why everyone must play their position for team success
24:20 - Dealing with career transitions and shifting identity after retirement
29:10 - The "used to be" vs "I am" mindset for maintaining confidence
34:00 - No excuses philosophy: you either do or you don't
52:00 - Innovative face-off strategies that helped win the Stanley Cup
62:30 - Playing to win versus playing not to lose
65:45 - The bar conversation that united families for the championship
Key Takeaways:
Leaders must communicate crystal-clear goals
Identity loss can derail high performers after retirement or career shifts.
Playing to “not lose” creates hesitation; playing to win creates momentum.
Ownership beats excuses — every time.
Leaders must reflect on whether failure was execution or lack of resources.
Energy, clarity, and consistency win over time.
You must declare what you want — silence guarantees nothing.
Resources Mentioned:
The Secret (law of attraction concept)
Tony Robbins – mindset principle referenced
Cold plunge discipline practice
Quotes:
“Your mind is in charge. Doesn’t matter what your body feels, just do it.” - Brad May
“It’s okay if you’re not successful, but own it and learn from it and let’s go. Let’s keep moving.” - Brad May
“The moment that a coach compromises his values, he's not the same guy and he's probably not as good.” - Brad May
“You gotta enjoy the small wins.” - Dwayne Kerrigan
“There's just some people, some leaders, who are just not having the hard enough conversations.” - Dwayne Kerrigan
Guest Bio:
Brad May is a former NHL forward whose 19-year career spanned more than 1,000 regular-season games across the league. He is a Stanley Cup champion, winning with the Anaheim Ducks in 2007, and remains a recognizable figure in hockey history for his 1993 overtime playoff goal against Boston, remembered by fans as the iconic “May Day” moment.
Following his retirement from professional hockey in 2010, May transitioned into broadcasting, working as an NHL analyst with CBC, Rogers Sportsnet, and AT&T SportsNet, where his candid, player-first perspective made him a natural presence on air. In 2024, May entered a new chapter off the ice, joining NFP as a Client Executive, where he works with businesses and individuals on insurance and risk management.
Guest Social Links:
Instagram: www.instagram.com/maydayhockey
LinkedIn: ca.linkedin.com/in/brad-may-24228662
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