97. Dealing Life’s Hand: Molly Bloom on Mindset & Comebacks
In this riveting first installment, Dwayne sits down with Molly Bloom, they trace her journey from a straight-A student and elite mogul skier—who overcame major spinal surgery—to California, where an identity crisis set her on an unexpected path into the world of high-stakes underground poker. Along the way, Molly reflects on the powerful roles family dynamics, honesty, and courage have played in her life. She shares how the pivotal “20 Seconds of Courage” mindset transformed her decision-making, and reveals how meticulous attention to sensory details and genuine empathy— “effective presence”—became the secret sauce that elevated her from server to sought-after host of billionaire poker tables. Molly also imparts hard-won lessons in resilience, parenting, and emotional intelligence, including techniques like cognitive reappraisal and value inventories that anyone can apply to amplify personal and professional success.
Time Stamps:
00:00 – Opening Hand: From Olympic Moguls to Underground Poker
01:30 – The Truth Deal: Scoliosis Surgery, Law School & Reclaiming Honesty
04:00 – Identity All-In: Chasing Warmth After a Career-Defining Fall
07:00 – First Hand Played: How “Tip Molly” Became the Table’s Secret Weapon
09:30 – Family Face-Off: Lessons from a Stern Father & Compassionate Mother
13:00 – Parenting Like a Pro: Building Resilience in Your Kids
19:00 – The 20-Second Bet: A Simple Hack for Courageous Action
23:00 – Rock-Bottom Royal Flush: Freedom Found in Failure
25:30 – Service Mastery: Elevating the Guest Experience at Billionaire Tables
30:00 – Emotional Footprint: The Art of “Effective Presence”
36:00 – Empathy Unlocked: Navigating Easy vs. Hard Connections
41:30 – Sensory High-Stakes: Designing Unforgettable, Multi-Sense Experiences
49:00 – Outsider’s Edge: Creativity & Loyalty from the Poker Fringe
54:00 – Part 2 Tease: Scaling Empires, Legal Battles & Reinvention
Notable Quotes
“If you’re asking how I went from a straight-A student and elite athlete to running an underground crime syndicate, yeah, there’s some causes and conditions there.” Molly Bloom
“People are going to forget what you said and what you did. They’re not going to forget the way you made them feel.” Dwayne Kerrigan
“20 seconds of courage. That’s all it takes to send the email that changes your career.” Molly Bloon
Valuable Resources
- Film & Memoir: Molly’s Game (movie by Aaron Sorkin) & Molly’s Game memoir by Molly Bloom
- Emotional Intelligence: Daniel Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence; research on the “emotional footprint” meta-analysis
- Mindfulness & Reappraisal: Byron Katie’s Loving What Is; practice journals for cognitive reappraisal (“What else could this mean?”)
- Risk & Courage: Brené Brown’s work on vulnerability; prompts for “20 seconds of courage” challenges
Key Takeaways
- Inventory Your Values: Write down who you want to be, how you want to treat people, and then audit your behavior regularly.
- Practice 20 Seconds of Courage: Before fear spins you out, commit just 20 seconds to take the leap—send the ask, make the call, pitch the idea.
- Cultivate Effective Presence: Focus on the emotional footprint you leave: genuine curiosity, empathetic listening (“listening to discover”), and small acts of service.
- Use Cognitive Reappraisal: When conflict arises, reframe instantly (“What else could this mean?”) to defuse negativity and maintain inner calm.
- Design for All Senses: In any client-facing situation—from podcasts to boardrooms—mind lighting, sound, scent, and novelty to create immersive, memorable experiences.
- Balance Empathy & Boundaries: Exercise “easy empathy” with those like you, and “hard empathy” with those you profoundly disagree with—listen without immediate judgment.
Tune in next week for Part 2, where Molly unpacks the rise and fall of her poker empire, her legal odyssey, and the next evolution of identity beyond the high-stakes tables.
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