129: Character Over Talent: Brad May on Grit, Goals, and Integrity
In this episode of The Dwayne Kerrigan Podcast, former NHL veteran Brad May joins Dwayne for candid conversation about leadership, grit, and longevity — on and off the ice.
Brad reflects on his 19-year NHL career, what separated players who made it from those who didn’t, and why mental fortitude mattered more than raw talent. From locker room lessons and team dynamics to integrity in business and life, Brad shares the foundational principles that shaped his journey: set achievable goals, outwork the competition, do the right thing — even when no one is watching.
He speaks openly about fear, discipline, evolving training methods, investing in himself, and the power of speaking goals into existence. Whether you’re building a business, leading a team, or chasing a dream, this conversation is a masterclass in character, culture, and consistency.
Episode Highlights:
0:00 - Opening: The power of achievable goals and how success begets success
2:10 - Amazing Race experience: A month of uninterrupted father-daughter bonding
8:13 - Ken May's integrity story: Choosing ethics over extra commission in real estate
13:36 - Playing 1,041 NHL games: The 5% club and what it takes to last 19 years
14:47 - The Miracle on Ice: Herb Brooks' leadership and the power of divide and conquer
21:36 - Training evolution: What Brad wishes he knew then vs. what athletes know now
27:54 - Nathan McKinnon's training: Heavy lifting before games to wake up the nervous system
33:28 - Building championship teams: The right mix of leaders, followers, convicts, and dreamers
39:04 - Locker room lesson: When Pat LaFontaine taught Brad about playing smart vs. playing hard
49:35 - The power of manifestation: Speaking your goals into existence
58:13 - "You can't get blood from a rock": Brad's mental fortitude superpower
1:02:03 - Parenting reflection: Being too soft on the next generation vs. learning through adversity
Key Takeaways:
- Success is the realization of a predetermined goal
- Achievable goals create momentum and compound wins
- Longevity requires discipline beyond talent
- Mental fortitude is a competitive advantage
- You cannot succeed alone — success is collective
- Speak goals into existence and back them with action
Resources Mentioned:
- The Secret (law of attraction concept)
- Miracle on Ice (1980 U.S. Olympic Hockey Team story)
- Herb Brooks leadership model
- Journaling & written goal-setting
Quotes:
- “Set your goals, achievable goals, and you do that on a regular basis and you're gonna get to where you're going.” - Brad May
- “The definition of success is the realization of a predetermined goal.” - Brad May
- “You can’t get blood from a rock.” - Brad May
- “Leadership shows up in a lot of different ways.” - Dwayne Kerrigan
- “The strongest force in the human psyche is to remain congruent with how we identify ourselves.” - Dwayne Kerrigan
Brad May is a former NHL forward whose 19-year career spanned more than 1,000 regular-season games across the league. He is a Stanley Cup champion, winning with the Anaheim Ducks in 2007, and remains a recognizable figure in hockey history for his 1993 overtime playoff goal against Boston, remembered by fans as the iconic “May Day” moment.
Following his retirement from professional hockey in 2010, May transitioned into broadcasting, working as an NHL analyst with CBC, Rogers Sportsnet, and AT&T SportsNet, where his candid, player-first perspective made him a natural presence on air. In 2024, May entered a new chapter off the ice, joining NFP as a Client Executive, where he works with businesses and individuals on insurance and risk management.
Links
Instagram: www.instagram.com/maydayhockey
LinkedIn: ca.linkedin.com/in/brad-may-24228662
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